It’s so easy to sit around and wait for “one day”; to make excuses for why you don’t have the things you want in your life. Your problems seem so large and scary that you don’t even know where to start. Therefore instead of taking one tiny piece of action, you wait on someone else or “life” to jump in and rescue you. The princess waits, but the queen saves herself. Be the queen.
What if help is not coming? Maybe this is something you need to prove to yourself. What if doing so will make you feel powerful beyond your wildest dreams?
Don’t sell yourself short. The knight in shining amour is unnecessary. You have every ability to rescue yourself.
You do not have to be a damsel in distress. Sometimes you need to roll up your sleeves and do your own dirty work. Trust me, it feels damn good.
There’s so many things in my life that momentarily make me feel weak or “lesser”. Nobody can make me feel that way except myself though.
My student debt? I hate it. Occasionally it feels impossible to beat alone. I’ve fallen into the trap of fantasizing about how much easier it would be to get out of debt if I shared bills with someone. That is not my situation though.
“If” is a word that will drive you insane, and delay you from taking action NOW.
I’ve decided that I made the choice to get my degree and put myself through school. I worked my @ss off, and got the job I wanted. That job will allow me to pay off my loans. I’m solving the problem solo, and every month I feel more proud.
The tiniest things can make you feel powerful and capable. Fixing my shed, re-lighting my furnace (even if I had to google how), paying off my debt month by month. If small things can feel amazing, imagine what big victories could give you. Set goals, and complete them for YOU.
The more you accomplish, the more you will want to do, and the higher you’ll reach.
Honestly, make a list of 5 things you’ve done that make you feel powerful or proud. Don’t think too hard about it. Just write down what comes to mind. How many of those did you complete solo? There’s beauty in personal growth, even if it feels awful at the time.
You know what you want- what would it legitimately take to give it to yourself?
Beat your personal demons. Conquer your debt. Learn to live alone. Chase down your goals. It’s worth it.
It’s okay to vent to others, and it’s okay to lean on people. But take ownership and solve your own damn problems.
Don’t look for someone to fix everything for you. Look for people that support and motivate you while you fix them YOURSELF.
Adjust your damn crown, and get started.
The princess waits, but the queen saves herself.
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